Hello, Fabulous World!

Intro

I’ve always had a lot of questions in my head.

Is ketchup better than mustard? Did man really walk on the moon? How do you eat crème brulee? Will they ever resume Heroes? Should I really have that fourth cup of espresso? What’s eighteen times thirty-two? Are gay men any different than the straight ones? Does true love exist for either?

Like the classical gay stereotype, I might not know the right spoon to eat my crème brulee with, or what colour shirt goes with a leather jacket, but I do know that there never really is only the One. There’s a Two, a Three and a Four, and probably more. It will work out with some of them, and sometimes it will not. (Side note: white shirts work with anything.)

Sounds familiar?

It obviously does, because there really is no difference between gay and straight when it comes to love, sex or relationships – unless you have to think about who fits the bill when things are going so bad, you probably might never ever see each other again.

There’s a definite need to bust the many stereotypes that exist about gay men, and most of them need to be busted like the bell-bottom trend – do we like pink? Is Adele on loop? Are we promiscuous? Do we really lust after our best friend’s boyfriend? Not really, nope, nope and never ever, unless he’s cute and made a pass at us (but then again, never.)

It’s simply rude if you ask gay men questions like these – it’s like asking someone if they’ve ever killed someone or whether they have something stuck between their teeth. Here’s a friendly PSA: Gay men come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. If someone tells you they identify as gay, there’s no need to ask them whether they like Bradley Cooper or Brad Pitt (Cooper, any day). It’s that easy.

But even though we live in a world full of hipsters and millennials, coming out, isn’t easy. In fact, it’s far from the Hallmark movie that I make it out to be – every year, more and more people are pushed back into the closets to rot away with clothes that are too tight, cigarettes that are too damp and love notes that are long forgotten. Every day, more and more gay men are abandoned, disowned and even condemned to hell. Every day, a few more gay men hate themselves for their sexuality, and a few more men shut down these doors to their closets forever.

Blame it on Section 377 or blame it on middle class mob mentality, but it’s almost disheartening that things work this way. Coming out shouldn’t be an ordeal or a celebration; it should be a regular, everyday thing – like flossing your teeth every night, or telling your friends that you are vegan, or don’t like Taylor Swift. (We feel for you, Calvin Harris.)

That’s where the Guysexual comes in. (without any invitations, because invitations are so 2008) Think of this as your quintessential guide to the secret lives of Indian gay men – There might not be a pop culture guidebook to being a homosexual, but there is one to knowing how to behave with one. This is a list of do’s and don’ts and will’s and wont’s for every question you might have regarding the friend gay man (or men) in your neighborhood – how do you decides who plays for the bill at the end of a meal? Do we prefer beer or mimosas? What are the things you should never ever say to someone when they come out? Is it okay to call a woman a fag hag? Do we really like brunch as much as we say we do? Why are all the hot guys gay? Why is it not a good idea to instantly try setting up a new gay friend with the only other gay person that you know?

But more importantly, how about one individually decides not to make homosexuality a big deal? So don’t say ‘something is gay’. Don’t point at someone who dresses differently. Don’t snigger at the guy who doesn’t play cricket. Don’t say that you want a gay best friend because you think it’s cool. Don’t assume. Don’t presume, but most importantly, don’t bully.

Maybe sometime in the future, a month, a year or even a decade – every LGBT person in this country can enjoy the same privileges that a select few do. And maybe, just maybe, it won’t be a privilege, but simply a way of life by then.

Until then, I’d need a beer. And probably your number too.

Love And Other Drugs: Volume I

Love and other Drugs

Q. I might be in love with my best friend. What do I do?

– LoveLorn2012
What have all great Romcoms taught us (apart from the fact that bangs are cool, and you will most likely end up with your high school sweetheart)?
That it’s easier to fall in love with the best friend than it is to fit into a size Small during the Zara sale. But then again, life is no Romcom movie. (Least of all like You Got Mail, contrary to popular belief). Falling in love with the best friend is always a tricky thing – how close are the two of you to begin with? Do you watch an occasional movie together? Bitch out the new office intern during lunch hour? Braid each other’s hair while watching late night reruns of Grease? (Just kidding, no one braids each other’s hair anymore.)

Do gay best friends work the same way conventional best friends do? There’s always that thin shroud that cloaks every friend we come in contact with – it’s the diplomatic version of the friendzone, only politer. One minute you are both ogling at that cute boy sitting two tables away from you at the restaurant, and the other you are trying to awkwardly avoid each other. So what do you do if he doesn’t feel the same way?

The thing about great friendships is that they can withstand anything – so if your friend can’t deal with a confession and let it go, he probably wasn’t that great a friend to begin with.

If that happens, you can always have a cupcake.
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The 5 different guys you meet on Grindr

Can I tell you a secret?

Every second love story begins on Grindr. What about everybody else?

They lie, and say they met at Starbucks. Grindr is a haystack of men, but there’s no corresponding shiny needle to find. For every possible Prince Charming that you would find on the app, you’d find half a hundred dozen men you wish you had never met (or said ‘Hi’ to; who meets anyone in person anymore?) Here are five such men you’d see doing the rounds of Grindr every day, while on their gym breaks or lunch, or those lone moments in the loo when they (read: you) have nothing else to do:

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Guymate Of The Week: Tejeshwar Sandhoo, Fashion Blogger.

Tejeshwar Sandhoo, Fashion Blogger.
Tejeshwar Sandhoo, Fashion Blogger.

Name: Tejeshwar Sandhoo.

This is how young I am: 24 years old.

The ‘What-Do-You-Do’: Bad-Ass Social Media Whore and a handsome (read: sexy) Pilot in the making.

The ‘Why-Do-You-Do’: So I can make sure I don’t have to ask a guy to pay for my food when we’re on a date (exceptions can be made).

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The BALMAIN X H&M India Launch: A GuyStyler Exclusive!

Ever since H&M opened its fashion doors in India, our resident fashion expert, the GuyStyler (who also runs his own exclusive fashion blog here.) has made at least 10 visits to their super cool store which sells cooler clothes at an even cooler price (side note: He now needs to look for a larger wardrobe). But what everyone had been waiting for was one of the biggest fashion collaborations of recent times – Balmain X H&M.

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Sharp-shouldered jackets and military detailing, what more can we ask for?

Known for their sharp-shouldered jackets and military detailing, collaborating with a mass brand like H&M was a challenge for 29-year-old creative director Olivier Rousteing. Despite his love for H&M, Rousteing said that this collaboration was a huge task given the fact that Balmain is super-expensive (goodbye, credit cards!). Changing of fabric and using less embroidery helped them achieve the unachievable – creating fashion for everyone. And the spectacular result is in front of us!

The very affordable collection is full of military-inspired pieces – from military green overcoats and black jackets to coats with gold detailing and chunky gold buttons. A majority of the collection features edgy monochrome looks with lots of zipper detailing – as seen here in the black statement jumpsuit, which has a dazzling zipper in the front. This is all really fancy but how does this help you, you ask?

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The signature black statement jumpsuit from the collection – also known as ‘our-early-christmas-present.’

We saw that coming. Take cues from this beautifully shot lookbook and shop for your favorite look with us right here. One of the must-have pieces (and our expert’s personal favourite) would be the gorgeous red and black biker jacket featured below – it’s wicked and it’s funky as hell! What’s more?

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This gorgeous red and black biker jacket is wicked and it’s funky as hell!

Amazingly well tailored coats and edgy leather jackets are guaranteed to make you all want to get a piece of this masterpiece – bring out the drinks, because we are having a Rocky Horror Show Theme Party! (Not really.)

Hold on. We aren’t done yet. Here’s more good news! There’s a second H&M store that just opened in Delhi (that might add some relief to those who’ve had to wait in line for hours to get billed) and we plan to get there faster than we can say ‘I-have-no-new-clothes-to-wear’. Now now, Bombay, are you listening?

So while we celebrate one of our favourite fashion brands launching in India, why don’t you check out the look book here?

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